Anonymous asked: Do you use clothes for wearing around the house or just the same clothes to go outside? Silly curiousity lol xxx
I’m addicted to comfort, this is part of why i started sewing in the first place. I pretty much wear a skirt or yoga pants+tank or ls top around the house. And scrunchy socks. Boring i know.
Anonymous asked: you are your art. i can't tell which begins and the other ends. i think that is cool. :)
what a beautiful thing to say, thankyou
Anonymous asked: With the way you paint and draw you actually give a shit if someone else considers you beautiful? You have talent. What you need is confidence. Don't fall into the trap. Be outside of the trap. Women are their own worst enemies sometimes. Wouldn't it be marvelous to just tell that person to go scratch instead and really mean it? My grandmother was no Marilyn Monroe, but she had confidence and it was appealing. She could tell anyone to take a hike in 2 seconds flat and leave you breathless.
1. thankyou for your kind words about my talent.
2. please don’t assume that just because i feel shitty about my appearance on and off i lack confidence. there’s more than one emotion involved here. i show off my quirky damn face online almost daily, i wouldn’t do that if i didn’t feel confident.
3. didn’t i basically tell that person to take a hike? i added a paragraph to school them about commenting on women’s appearances, which was a much more general statement, not ‘oh you hurt me so much’.
4. as for ‘why should i care what people think of my appearance when i have talent’. i’ll tell ya for why. here’s an example: yesterday i fancied listening to classical music and went through some liszt, händel and bartok etc on spotify. whenever a male pianist, conductor or (mostly male) symphony orchestra have recorded the piece it’s either just their face, them pictured very small or some graphics on the record cover. i listened to a few female pianists as well. their record covers were sultry; beautiful black evening dresses, flowing hair, red lips. sometimes not even pictured AT the piano but standing in front of it so we see their shape. same talent behind the music, no? but as a woman, you better back up your talent with some talent in the looks department if you wanna go places. not that i feel it’s wrong to show off your beauty, not at all. but it sucks because it gives equally or more talented women who aren’t as young or beautiful a disadvantage while the men have a much more even playing field. also, less eyecandy for people like me who actually appreciate male beauty. i’m not saying if you’re an unattractive woman you can’t succeed in the arts, i’m just saying the odds are stacked against you. in fact, in the world of illustration and comics, where i really belong but have stepped away from somewhat, the climate is ridiculously harsh.
5. your grandma sounds awesome, many props to her, but she didn’t live in the internet age and you don’t mention what her line of work was.
6. i hope you don’t take this as me jumping down your throat. you’re right about everything it’s just … a lot more complicated than you make it sound. like i said yesterday, i am 100% for growing a thick skin because i don’t believe there will ever be a dickhead free world anyway.